September 7, 2009
8 Essential Tactics for Speaking to Women
Are you prepared to really expand your dating options by learning to communicate with more women and initiate dates with them? You may be discovering that initiating conversations with women is the one way to earn yourself the opportunities which you truly need to get what you desire in your romantic life. So what are the most effective ways to speak to girls and truly make them interested so that you can get more dates? Well, you might be learning that you are lacking when it comes to initiating conversations with women, but don’t worry because you are about to learn the eight most effective tips for doing so.
The first one is that you have to quite being concerned in regards to what girls feel about you and focus on what you desire instead. It is a waste of effort and a confidence killer to analyze everything a woman says and does trying to figure out if she cares about you. So what? Determine what you want and go get it. As soon as you do, you will learn that most women are drawn to this type of confidence and they will respond to you much better.
The second thing is to initiate conversations with everyone, including women you would never be attracted to and even guys whom you don’t know. If you wait to get your guts up only when you meet a women you are genuinely interested in, you can bet that the ‘all or nothing thinking’ is going to reduce you to a full scalemonosyllabic caveman. Then again, if you initiate conversations with everyone you meet you’ll keep your conversation skills strong and you are certain to be prepared when your preferred women shows up.
Third, concentrate on asking her questions and prompting her to talk about something which she is interested in. You see, people are more interested in you if you are interested in them than if you are trying to be interesting to them. Not only that, getting her to talk about her interests instead of talking about herself will help her to relax. After all, if you don’t know her you don’t want to get too personal until you are both ready.
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Fourth, tell a story and make it entertaining and even funny. People love stories and they LOVE to get a good laugh and if you have one ready you can be certain that she is going to want to hear it. Just make certain that you have warmed her up a bit first and that the story you use has something to do with the subject you are already discussing. You can have a few stories memorized in advance and make a transition like: “Hey, that makes me think of…” Then tell the story with enthusiasm and see what effect it has on her.
Fifth, get close to her and show her that you are confident with being close to her. This means that you have physical contact right off the bat, like a light touch on the arm as you are speaking about something. This may be a little difficult and you might want to practice it with some people you already know before you do it with her. However, physical contact is a sure fire indicator of attraction and a great way to get her attention.
Sixth, laugh at her jokes and get excited about what she is speaking to you about. This is best achieved by body language rather than words and will be interpreted as more genuine than if you just verbalized it. What you have to understand about girls is that they are more emotional than us and are going to respond to you showing them some kind of enthusiasm. This will also persuade them to talk more and will help you both to relax.
Seventh, be a the bad boy and let her deal with it. This is not to way that you are mean, it means that you demonstrate your identity as the strong man. Women are much quicker to overlook a guys mistakes if he demonstrates to her that he is at ease with them. A lot of guys make the error of being ‘nice’ and attempting to please a woman. It is much better to demonstrate to her that you are a self-confident man who can stick up for her when she needs it.
Finally, if you are attracted to her then go right for the next meeting instead of the phone number. Think about it, you just spoke to this woman and you know that you like her. Why bother with the number when you can just request the date? Trust me, no matter what she is going to understand that you are interested so you might as well let her see that you are not afraid to pursue what you desire. Again, boldness and decisiveness is a thing which women find good in a man. Once you have a date set, ask for her digits so that you can get a hold of her in case something comes up.
So dedicate yourself to practicing these eight principles one by one until you get them down you will earn plenty more options when it comes to dating. Then you can be with the girls who you truly want to as opposed to having to wait and accept what you can get. Good luck.
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