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July 26, 2008

Over 40? Still Have Fun In The Dating Scene!

by Pam Baldwin

For men who have reached that plateau of 40 years old, the prospect of finding someone to marry, have a family with, and ultimately settle down may seem like a big stretch if they haven’t started down that road. Although it may seem daunting, the reality is that even guys who have reached forty aren’t completely rejected - in fact, many men today over forty meet wonderful women and actively date on a regular basis.

Even though they get just as nervous as any other guy, these men go full speed ahead, not even thinking of their anxieties. There are some helpful tips for men over 40 who want to find that special someone, or who just want to date, these tips are important in today’s society.

One of the tips on top of the list is for men over 40 not to over look the importance of online dating sites. While many people look at them as web sites for the younger crowd, there are quite of few people that are over 40. You might be tempted to click on a profile that the person is way younger than you, but always remember to have realistic goals, and look for someone that’s in your range. Not just the ones that look good.

If you are interested in finding that special someone in your life, there are many wonderful sites like eharmony, that allow you to meet someone based on your personality. This means being honest about yourself which is pretty hard to do. But being able to do this can be the difference of a one night stand or the love of your life.

Of course, one of the greatest dating tips for men over 40 is to be confident when on a date with a young woman. Even though you might be a little older than the woman you’re out with, acting youthful is still a definite turn on for young women. Being a little playful in conversation, acting a little immature while still maintaining a fairly gentlemanly and dignified presence can add a little mystique to your personality, which can pique a woman’s interest. A little bit of playful banter, or maybe a mischievous comment or two to set a romantic mood can create a loose atmosphere and help a woman feel more comfortable around you.

Of course, the same major hurdle that men face as a youth still rears it’s head even into your forties - listening to a woman. This is one of the more overlooked dating tips for men over 40 because you probably have more of a mindset to be active and a talker and less of one to be idle and a listener. No matter what age, you still need to be actively engaged in conversation and actively listening to your date. Being able to hold conversation and respond to her comments can certainly increase a woman’s level of interest in you.

Most importantly, don’t act like a father or an overseer of someone when on a date or out for an evening. Many older men have a more paternal instinct than younger men, and as a result can treat a date more like a daughter than a woman, a prospective girlfriend, or more. Act as though you’re out like you’re twenty years old again, and see how differently your actions and her reactions to you will be.

There are many more dating tips for men over the age of forty out there on the internet and in numerous books and advice columns, but these here are a few of the finer points to consider when plunging back into the dating pool. If you as a man over forty are trying to find that special someone, be yourself, be realistic, and be a man - you’ll be surprised at how well your dates may go.

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